Confessions of a Bride-To-Be #2

Beware, this is a sorta ranting post.

We had dinner with some friends on Sat night and were asked about our wedding preparations.

Friend: "So have you chosen your gown?"
Me: "Nope, will only start the design process in Sept."
Friend: "How about your photo shoot? When is it?"
Me: "It's in early August."
Friend: "Hmmm. Doesn't that mean that you won't get to wear your gown for your photoshoot?"
Me: "Yah, but that's fine with me because we are doing a casual shoot."
Friend (frown on her face) : "But don't you want to take photos in your wedding gown?"
Me: "No not really. I'd have some shots of me in my gown on the actual wedding day anyway."
(awkward silence)
Friend: "Ok, so when will your new place be ready?"
Me: "Somewhere early next year."
Friend: "Oh that means around your wedding. Are you going to stay with him, before the house is ready?"
Me: "No lar, we'll stay separately first."
Friend (surprised look): "Hmmm ok. But don't you want to stay together?"
Me: "I think it makes more sense to stay at our individual homes, especially when it comes to commuting to work."
Friend (about to say more, but was gently told by her husband to not say more).

In another conversation with colleagues last week,

Colleague: "So where are you holding your wedding?"
Me: " in Sentosa."
Colleague: "Oh, which hotel is that at?"
Me: "It's a restaurant."
Colleague: "How many people are you planning to invite?"
Me: "About 100 guests?"
Colleague: "Wah you can fit everyone?"
Me: "Yah it'll be a small cosy dinner with close family and friends."
Colleague (deep frown on face): "Hmmmm ok."

From the above, I guess you can say that the fiance and I are not your typical couple. We knew from the very start that we wanted a small affair so we could have the chance to mingle with our guests. We also decided against studio wedding shots and taking photos in our suit and gown because we wanted the photos to capture us being natural and ourselves. We are also perfectly fine with staying apart because it's only for a few months at most.

I guess my point here is, everyone has different views and ways of doing things. You can't expect the whole world to think like you. I don't ask for people to understand our rationale for our choices, but i would appreciate for others to respect our decisions.